The holiday season is among us and so is the change of the weather, as well as grief. Many people think grief only pertains to the death of a loved one and that is not true. You can grieve the loss of a friendship, loss of a relationship, loss of self, loss of a former self, loss of a pet, loss of employment, loss of financial stability, etc. What is ironic about this is January 1st is around the corner and many of us want to have our goals aligned and ready to kick off 2018 better than we left 2017, but you may find yourself grieving this holiday season. You may also notice that grief has affected your productivity to even get your thoughts in order about what you want to change within your personal life and career.
I want you to know that you are human and grief is a natural process. Everyone grieves differently and, as stated previously, for different reasons. The key to once you realize that you haven’t been as productive about brainstorming your goals is to allow yourself grace. God has you right where he wants you at this moment. Take this time to reflect not only about what you’re grieving about, but also about what you hope to gain in the new year.
Personally, continued growth in my career and providing a better life for my daughter than I had is definitely my most important goals at this time. But I have been bitten by the grief bug, as well, but I didn’t let it deter me. I just took the time I needed today and I will proceed at my own pace, constructively.
Here are 5 steps that you can utilize to move forward from your place of grief and into productivity.
- Take a day or two to rest and do nothing.
- Then get yourself a notebook to chronicle your steps of productivity.
- Next, think of what you want to gain in the new year and how what you have loss can be transformed into something positive.
- Talk to someone who will speak from a place of productivity, not just from a place of emotion. You can’t figure out everything alone.
- Whatever career or personal goals you have identified break them down into smaller steps that you can realistically accomplish day-by-day, week-by-week, and month-by-month. This will keep you accountable for your actions.
Again don’t be so hard on yourself. Grief is natural and you are human, but life must go on. It’s up to you to decide in what way you’re life will proceed. I choose positivity and continued growth.
And yes it’s easier said than done, but it can be accomplished. Speaking from experience, especially after losing my dad unexpectedly three years ago. But guess what, I prevailed and so will you!