Not forgiving someone who has hurt you is something you’d never think could affect you tremendously, especially when you have blocked the person who has harmed you out of your life. Little do you know that act of blocking that person out of your life, without forgiving displays how hurt you still are. The anger you feel and show when speaking about the event and/or person displays that hurt as well. And when you say “Out of sight out of mine”, that too is an indication of the hurt you still carry.
I can speak about this because I have done all of the above, before I began to work on self. You may think the person who harmed you doesn’t deserve your forgiveness, and maybe they don’t, BUT you and I both know the forgiveness is for you and not them. You don’t want that passive aggressiveness about your hurt to seep into other areas of your life.
So here are 3 ways to identify that not forgiving someone is affecting not only your life, but also your career and business.
- When you hold a grudge against a business associate are fellow employee for no particular reason. You may notice yourself saying “I just don’t like him or her”. This is because that person may unconsciously remind you of a person who has hurt you. It may be their demeanor, the way they look, or the way they have treated you in a previous situation.
- Not forgiving someone who has hurt you previously can cause you to harbor resentfulness, and that resentfulness can set into your character and become a habit. Meaning you may find yourself struggling to forgive within your work setting or career about the smallest things.
- Lastly, within your life, not forgiving someone may cause you to have unexplainable anger. This can cause you to lash out or cause you to have a wall of defense up.
No matter what the situation is, not forgiving someone who has hurt you can unintentionally affect all areas of your life in which you have contact with individuals on a constant basis. One thing I have learned about forgiveness is it takes a weight off of you and it affords you the ability to utilize that energy in other areas. It also allows you freedom to be a better you. Harboring ill feelings only hurts you at the end because your character becomes tainted. And once your character is tainted so is everything about you.
I don’t know about you, but I’d rather keep a positive ora. And keep in mind forgiving someone may be a process depending on the situation, but with the right resources and support you will be able to heal and have a more positive life. So lets’ forgive, forget, move on, and succeed!
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